State of the wedding, vol. 3

Outtake from our makeup trial “photo shoot.” I actually do like the makeup!

Well, friends, we’re a little over two weeks out. Sixteen days, to be precise.

Sixteen. Days.

I’ve stopped looking at my checklist on The Knot; it scares me. I’ve made my own “to-do” list in Google Docs, otherwise known as my Bible, and refer to that on a daily — er, hourly — basis.

I feel like I should be panicking or something . . . but I’m not. I’ve crossed from anxiety around the three-month mark to the wedding zen so many promise. I’m sure I’ll have a freak-out or two in the next week or so, just trying to make sure everything gets organized, but I’m pretty positive it will pass.

Honestly, in many ways, I was more anxious about moving out of my parents’ house than I ever have been about getting married. I take that is a good sign: the prospect of life with Spencer is decidedly not terrifying (always a good thing to realize two weeks from your wedding), and we’re settling into our new lives as a couple who also share a residence.

I feel like a real-deal, seriously serious grown-up. And that’s fun, too.

My bachelorette party is this weekend (woo!). My sister and friends are showing up at 8:30 a.m. tomorrow to whisk me off to an unknown locale, something I am ridiculously excited about, and the idea of spending two days with them just doing whatever has been the bright light at the end of a busy week.

It’s funny to read my post from July — back when I was really nervous about corralling a large group of people. Of 227 invited guests, our guest list has been pared down to roughly 150 — something that surprises me, honestly, but is understandable. We’re getting married on a holiday weekend, which is helpful for some and not for others; it’s November, so kids are in school; finances could be a concern, weather is a factor. I’m just thankful so much of our extended family is making the trip and really can’t wait to see everyone!

And speaking of “everyone,” they’ll start arriving in a week and a half. Which means we really need to get our place in tip-top shape. I’m somewhat ashamed to admit we still have a few bridal shower gifts boxed in the living room . . . just from lack of space. After I took over several of the bookcases with my massive library, we’ve had to get creative with storing and moving items around. It’s been . . . interesting! Heh. But we’re working on it. A work in progress, indeed.

So what’s left to do? Well . . .

• Finalize the seating chart.
• Create all escort cards for said seating chart.
• Finish the table frames for our writer/scientist theme.
• Box up all decor and get that ready to take to the venue.
• Stuff welcome bags (when Spencer’s family arrives).
• Finish paying everyone. I hear $$$$ is a good thing.

There’s more, of course . . . but I won’t bore you with the tedious ramblings of an OCD bride! And they’re little things.

I’ve had my hair and makeup trials (pictured at top), my dress is taken in and ready, jewelry has been selected or borrowed. Our menu is done, headcount almost final, signature cocktails chosen (that was one delicious taste test). Everyone knows where to be and when — partially thanks to my always-updated timeline. I need to send that to all the vendors, actually . . .

I’ve also started weaning myself from wedding websites and bridal newsletters in general. While I definitely have favorites, spending too much time looking at others’ celebrations is starting to make me feel anxious. With so little time left, I don’t have the inclination, energy or funds to design quirky new decor, order funky colored straws or any of the other “Pinterest-able” elements I’ve loved looking at for so long. We’ve planned, and the plan is in place. Basically: it is what it is. What’s done is done.

But what’s done? Well, it will be awesome. For the most part I do feel good, calm. I’m getting thank-you notes out quickly and am sort of slipping into that introverted time of reflection, you know? It’s been so BUSY BUSY BUSY DOING ALL THE THINGS that I haven’t really allowed myself to consider the fact that I’m getting married, especially when so much energy was poured into my sister’s big day in September.

But now it’s our turn. We’re really doing this!

Sixteen days.

I can’t wait.

8 thoughts on “State of the wedding, vol. 3

  1. I get excited every time I read one of your posts! I wish I could be a fly on the wall…this is going to be an amazing wedding 🙂


  2. The makeup looks beautiful! I can’t wait to see photos from your wedding! I hope you get to enjoy these finals days, not that I’ve ever gotten married before, but I am sure this is a time to relish in the huge thing that you and Spencer are about to do. Anyways, I hope you stay relaxed and calm! Thanks for the info on APW, can’t stop reading!


  3. A great tip for the $$$$: Put all your final checks in envelopes with the person’s name or business. This way you don’t have to worry about it day of, or you can have someone else hand them out.
    Something my husband always tells people before their wedding day: take a moment every now and then to take it all in. Your big day is going to happen so fast it’s going to seem like a big blur. But if you stop and take thirty seconds out of every 20-30 minutes, it’ll slow it down a little and force you to see all the work you’ve put in to the big day.

    Congratulations and enjoy!


  4. YAY!!!! You look so beautiful in your photo, I can’t wait to see shots from the big day! I know it seems like there’s a million little decisions and that it can’t possibly all come together, but I promise it will. I was convinced that I wasn’t going to enjoy the wedding day because of everything that was going on behind the scenes with organization etc, but “wedding zen” truly set in the morning of and I had one of the best days of my life. I hope you have a fabulous time leading up to the wedding, the best wedding day ever, and a beautiful and happy marriage. Mazel tov!!!


  5. Love the picture / make up! Hope the Bachelorette Party was a blast!
    Mostly this: I’ve had so many brides come into my office and tell me that they just couldn’t wait for it to be over. Try to enjoy the process, the planning, and the day, but don’t let it become “I can’t wait for it to be over:
    You are doing this! And it will be wonderful!


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