In high school, I was a serious theatre nerd. Trying out for my first play freshman year was a huge leap for young, socially-awkward me — and not just because it required me to memorize lines and not fall face-first on the school stage. Coming from the disjointed throes of middle school, I was looking for a way to become a new person — a more confident person — and theatre seemed like a natural way to try that.
Over the course of four years, I was in more than a dozen shows and met countless people. Theatre changed my life in profound ways — especially because I was so active in the department during those crucial teen years. The fun of playing a character on stage held major draw for me, sure, but that wasn’t even what I loved most about theatre.
It was the friendships.
Over the course of a few months, we would audition and be cast and then spend hours daily running lines, rehearsing scenes and getting to know one another. After school each day, our cast and crew would assemble and start to plan these huge shows that would take over our young lives. And when opening day would finally arrive, finding us all antsy and excited and scared, there was always a time before the curtain drew open that I would force myself to pause and savor the moment.
In that world, murmurs from the audience reached the actors and technicians buzzing around backstage as the stage manager would wrangle us with whispered instructions. As show time approached, my stomach would lurch as lines and directions ran through my nervous mind. But when the spotlight clicked on and my heels hit the stage, all that anxiety would ebb away.
Backstage is where I first met Erin, my steadfast friend and new bride. As a freshman, I envied sophomore Erin’s confidence, humor and poise. Both active in drama, it didn’t take long for us to share costume tips, laugh as ’50s teenyboppers in “Bye Bye Birdie” (pictured above) and form bonds that would carry us into adulthood.
With a wide circle of mutual friends, Erin never made me feel like I was another passing acquaintance. Our conversations have inspired me in difficult times, and my trust in her is absolute. A year ahead of me in school, Erin was the first of my friends to arrive at the college I would follow her to the next fall. We briefly lost touch at university, but nothing could have delighted me more than getting a Facebook note from her during my junior year: “I think we have a class together this spring!”
We were both English majors and poets, and it was a literature class on the works of William Shakespeare that brought us together again. I remember the afternoon she showed me a text message from a handsome guy she’d just met. Her eyes glittered like diamonds, and neither of us paid much attention to our droning professor. She was thinking about when she would see him next.
About twelve years after Erin and I shared a stage in high school and more than five years since that class, Erin and Matt were married at Ft. Belvoir on Sept. 10. As one of her bridesmaids, we spent Saturday getting ready and laughing about old times. Secluded before the ceremony, I listened to the murmur of guests arriving and felt my stomach flip. All these years later and we were in a show together again. I ran through my lines and directions, but my task now was simple: try not to cry as my dear friend married her love.
Just as we had more than a decade ago, I marched ahead of Erin into the spotlight — and held my breath as she appeared on her father’s arm. My chest ached as I took in the moment: this ending and this beginning; the pooling of tears in the groom’s eyes; this exquisitely beautiful bride, and the true gift that has been our years of friendship. When I think about all that Erin has meant to me, I feel overwhelmed. I wiped tears away the entire ceremony.
Vows were exchanged and promises made, and this performance went on as scheduled. Love lit up Erin and Matt’s faces all evening, and we enjoyed delicious food and even better times. Dancing and snapping shots in a photo booth were definite highlights, and it felt so good to have Spencer on my arm.
When I looked over at the newlyweds’ expressions and felt my own face mirroring that high, I was emotional all over again. I’ve had my heart broken. Erin has been there for me through everything — through that, and so much more — and I felt so elated to just be . . . happy. And in love. In love at her wedding, a moment we’ve anticipated for so long. And when Spencer pulled me in for a dance, I forgot about whether or not everyone was watching us. It didn’t matter. Nothing did.
I think about Erin and all the good things I wish for her. I think about Matt and how I hope and pray he will love and care for her always, as I hope she will for him. I think about all the exciting things that are ahead of them — and for me, and for all of us — and am filled with this sense of elation and wonderment and pride.
Weddings are beginnings — but they’re endings, too. But for once in my life, I didn’t focus on the sadness that can often tint my enjoyment of the good things in life. I thought about how honored I was to be a part of her day, and how thankful I am for the people in my world.
And like so many of our plays in high school — and all the good books I’ve read — I know this is just the beginning of their fairytale ending.
How sweet. I love weddings. Especially weddings of two people who really click.
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Me too, Juju! I don’t think I’ve ever attended a wedding without tearing up — even one I attended as a photographer — but this one was quite the affair.
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I loved your post. I know what you mean about weddings being endings but beginnings, too. My son married in August and my niece married this past weekend. I can’t wait to see how these new chapters in both newlyweds lives are written.
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So much seems like an ending and a beginning, April — it’s scary and amazing and cool. I wish both your son and niece a lifetime of happiness, too! I love love!
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What beautiful pictures! And I **love** Bye Bye Birdie! So jealous you got to be in it! :–)
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“Bye Bye Birdie” was so much fun, Jill! We were teenyboppers screaming for Conrad and fainting whenever he came nearby. Even all these years later, I could still break out in song.
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Beautiful pictures, and an even more beautiful story 🙂 I was tearing up reading it…I played bridesmaid in my first “grown up” wedding last fall (was actually thinking about it yesterday, weird), and had a lot of the same feelings — to see someone you’re so close to, who’s been through so much with you, so happy and in love – starting the next glorious chapter of their life…It’s amazing. 🙂
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This was my first time in a “grown up” wedding, too, Rebecca, and it was something I’ll never forget! It was one thing to attend the weddings of family and acquaintances, but to be there when a good friend took that step was so emotional.
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What a lovely tribute to your friendship. I wish the newlyweds years of happiness and love.
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Me too, Kathy — thanks so much!
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I love this post- it’s beautiful and so eloquent. Your friend’s wedding looked so nice. I’m so glad you enjoyed it. I loved your dress and hair- you looked fabulous!
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Thanks so much, Christina! I was definitely struggling to get into that dress by the big day, so imagine my relief when it zipped straight up. I didn’t chronicle my weight loss journey on the blog, but it was an ordeal!
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Aww Meg, this was so very beautiful. Your friend and you look radiant and happy on her very special day. I am so happy for you, a friend like Erin is a treasure in life, you are both very lucky.
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Thank you, Anita! It was definitely a special day, and I feel fortunate to have Erin in my life.
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that’s so great that you’ve known eachother for so long! how crazy that everyone’s getting married already. you took really nice photos at the wedding, too! ^_^
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Meg! It’s not fair to make me cry before 8am. Really! This post needs a disclaimer re: necessity of waterproof mascara. What a lovely tribute to your friend. I envy your ability to put all the complex emotions of a friend’s wedding on paper (or screen, as it were) so eloquently. it leaves me a bumbling mess!
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Meg – as always, you found the exact right words to express your feelings and you wrote a beautiful post. I did theater in school as well so I totally identify with that part of what you wrote. 🙂
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aww what a beautiful piece! it reminded me of my friend’s wedding i attended this summer. i wasn’t able to hold back my tears at that wedding either, but i’m more than happy for them! btw, i tried a pumpkin spice latte for the first time the other day thanks to all your posts about them and i think i just fell in love! so thanks for that! 🙂
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What a beautiful post, Meg! It sounds like you are both lucky to have each other as a friend. Such friends are truly rare, and your tribute is a touching reminder of the beauty and rarity of such genuine friendship. Thank you for sharing this with us.
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