Getting to be so done with ‘The Bachelor.’ Or am I?

I’ve been watching “The Bachelor” and its female variant “The Bachelorette” faithfully, with my mom and sister, for years. I guess the first time I really got hooked was when the British Bachelor, Matt, vowed in a show preview to come to America “and steal all your women.” (Right.) Things with prissy, vapid Shayne didn’t quite work out — who could see that coming?! — and Matt has since faded into obscurity. Like so many of the former Bachelor contestants.

Jason MesnickBut Jason? Sweet, single dad Jason Mesnick from Seattle? I wasn’t ready to let go of him — I couldn’t watch my Jason fade into oblivion! Tonight will be my first evening without some sort of “Bachelor” hysteria! And I’ll be serious and say I’m totally over this whole Jason thing. Prior to this season, I thought he was just ideally the “perfect man” (if there could ever be such a thing, which — of course — there isn’t). I still think he’s a nice guy, but this whole D-R-A-M-A with Molly and Melissa has just given me a serious OD on the whole situation. I’m (almost) losing interest!

Melissa from The BachelorI mean, really? It comes down to Melissa and Molly in the show’s dramatic finish, and Jason kisses Molly goodbye while dropping to one knee to propose to Melissa. Six weeks later, Jason breaks things off with fiancee Melissa — and asks Molly for another chance, telling her he just can’t let go of her. Molly basically says they can see how things go. And Melissa is left broken-hearted somewhere, back on the path to attempting to find true love. Again.

Whoa! I know love makes you do some crazy lunatic things, but I’ve really come out of this just feeling sorry for Melissa. Jason goes on the “After the Rose” finale to break things off with Mel and then immediately beseeches Molly to go get “coffee or something”? I know this was a reality show and, as Jason explained on “The Jimmy Kimmel Show,” he was contractually obligated to let his relationship play out with the cameras rolling. But it just feels sad and contrived to me. If I were in Molly’s shoes, I can’t promise I wouldn’t want to take that guy back, too — but I would at least give it some thought before putting my hand on the man’s thigh on national television! Did y’all see that? Oh, I saw it. Girl, isn’t your grandma watching this show?!

Molly from The BachelorI know he’s trying to live in the “real world” (whatever that is) and that we’re supposed to believe these are “real” relationships. Do I think you could meet and fall in love on a TV show? Sure. I do. I believe in love at first sight and all that sappy stuff, and I definitely love me some good television! But I find it a bit implausible that you could be ready, after six or seven weeks, to completely commit yourself to marrying someone whose name you didn’t even know two months before. If you take even a casual glance at the situation, a series like “The Bachelor” just doesn’t seem to work. Only one of the couples actually got married after becoming “engaged” at the conclusion of the program, so that gives me a pretty unsettling feeling about the whole situation! Though an impending marriage certainly adds a sense of drama to each season’s finale, it would seem much more realistic to just say, “Hey, here’s the final rose. Let’s, you know, agree to see each other exclusively and see how this thing plays out.”

And far fewer tears would be shed, too! Although would that make for interesting television — and help sell advertising during the show’s coveted time slot? Probably not.

Jillian from The BachelorThe next “Bachelorette” will be Jason’s cast-off Jillian, a Canadian woman ousted after she stated firmly she’s looking to marry her “best friend.” After letting her go, he justified his actions by telling her he needs “a best friend and more” — he needs passion. Um, yes? I think we all pretty much understand that we’re not marrying just a best friend. Hey, if that’s the case, my life would be a whole lot easier! Jillian argued that when you’re ninety years old, you’re going to want to be sitting in the rocker with your best friend at your side. I couldn’t agree more. And what he probably meant to say when giving her the run-around was that he was “just not that into her.” Isn’t it just easier to tell the truth? He was worried there wasn’t enough chemistry there, and obviously there wasn’t. He thought they were on the “best friend” path, which was good and great with Jillian! Though Jason thought otherwise. Ah, well. Better she didn’t have to deal with all that final drama!

Fair thee well, Jillian! Perhaps she’ll be the next one to get “lucky” in love. Depending on your definition.

And yes, I’ll be watching!

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